Being a maker at times can be very challenging. Especially if you network and collaborate with other makers. So you’re surrounded by all of these other humans who do the same thing as you. Suddenly, you and your work, don’t feel as important or special.
It is one of those, unfortunate things, that we as people tend to experience when we are looking for validation outside of ourselves. Finding it within our maker community, somehow, will reaffirm that we are on the right path, making the right things and that everything will be just hunky-dory.
Here is why. When you constantly are looking at your neighbors house, admiring their amazingly green and freshly cut grass, suddenly you start to see the flaws in your own lawn. It has too many weeds and dead patches. You don’t fertilize it enough and what is that gosh-awful looking weed growing over there? You start to doubt yourself, your abilities and your motivation to further making and creation.
It is easier said then done, but, focusing on your making and not others, can help boost your self worth within yourself and your business. Does it help to have maker friends? Absolutely! It is wonderful to have someone to bounce ideas off of and talk to about how to convince your husband to be okay with your next yarn or fabric purchase.
What it is not wonderful for?
Comparing. I can 100% guarantee that whatever you are feeling, they are too. Maybe not about you (or maybe they are), but they have the same moments of self doubt, the same insecure feeling that what they are doing isn’t going to work out and all will fail in a pile of ashes in their hands.
Okay. That was a bit dramatic. It is true though.
As a maker I experience this on a daily basis. Constantly bombarded by other makers thanking their following for their love and support of their new pattern release or sale. They create this appearance that they are much more successful than they really are. I’ll admit I am guilty of this at times too.
Do I want the world to know I sold not a single thing in my last sale? Or that I still have yarn from 2 years ago that I dyed that no one wanted? NO! Of course not! Admitting that I, myself, am not a successful person, might turn potential customers or collaborators away.
We constantly walk this fine line of fact and fiction to appease our following and our egos. At times it feels like we are screaming into the void for someone to acknowledge our existence!
Almost like the no make up selfies that were so popular a while ago.
Why not do the same with our businesses?
Why not share how hard we work and the failures?
Admitting failure is not defeat. Admitting failure opens the door for improvement, and new opportunities.
So. Don’t be afraid to share your truth and your real self!
Until next time,